Research links poor stress prediction and the inability to gauge your own potential coping resources to the tendency to complain.
University of Alabama's Yi-Ren Wang and colleagues (2021) note that people that have tendencies to over-estimate stress and underestimate their coping resources are constantly on edge and are primed to focus on the negative as each new day unfolds.
So, how to be less of a complainer? The study suggests that you first try to build your own resilience and sense of control over the events in your life by:
• Learning to adequately estimate the challenges of the day
• Preparing for daily challenges and having a plan to overcome them.
Otherwise, your mood will eventually become worn down and with it, your patience… and everything will seem like a problem!